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Rabu, 23 April 2014

Man Vs Women. Who’s The Boss??

            Man and Women are always have a different roles in the family activity. As a rule, that father (man) is the leader of a family, we should be obey on his order. But that’s posibility to mother (women) rather be the most controling every interaction of the family. And more often mother has a dominance to what she said we should follow. Because mother is always being dominant, we are as the children cannot disobey on her order. However, mother bears the pains of childbirth. We owe more to our mothers, so must be at their service more than our fathers. Our mothers play a big roles in our life. They are our teachers from the time of our birth. They not only go through the pain of bearing us for 9 months, childbirth, and also the pain of breastfeeding, looking after the baby, and taking all the responsibilities at once (that includes taking care of her husband too), they provide us with emotional intelligence and comfort as well as security.
            Based on Hadith Moesleem that  mentioned a conversation, one of Prophet (SAW)'s disciple asked :  “Who among the people is most deserving of a fine treatment from my hand?” 
The Prophet (SAW) replied: “Your mother”
He again said: “Then who?” 
Prophet (SAW) said : “Again it is your mother (who deserves the best treatment from you)”
He said: “Then who?”
The Prophet said: “Again, it is your mother”
He (again) said: “Then who?”
Thereupon the Prophet said: “Then it is your father”
Mom, mom, mom, then dad. It is based on the famous Hadith of the Prophet. Mothers tend to look out for the best interest of the child while the father looks out for the job/himself. In a Hadith also mentioned, “Paradise lies beneath your mother's feet”. That means, by assisting your mother, you are very likely to go to Janah(Paradise). But if you upset her, you are very likely to go to Jahanum(Hell).
            In other hand, father also provide us with financial support. As well, he take responsibility to guard, trained, and guaranty all of his wife and his children's sins. Man (father) 's leadership are not authoritarian leadership, but more likely a leading to improve mistaken of his family. In the Al-Quran Qs. Annisa ’34 said that : Man is the leader of women, because Allah has preferred some of them (men) over others (women) and because they give charity of  their wealth. The verse clearly and unequivocally shows that the male is the leader for women. And God created man in posture body shape and the properties that can be made means to be a leader. Because leadership requires a sense maximally efficient used and need strong stamina body, especially when he face of obstacles and constraints, and when solving various problems are quite complex.
            Man are choosen to be a leader of women and family in the universal. Because womens behavior that has a gentle, easy worried, sensitive character. She beared, nurse and taking care of children, that’s imposible and irrelevant for them to have given a burden of family leadership. This explanation, some people called “nature (God's will)”, that is a theory that considers the different functions and roles of men and women is caused by natural differences wich is reflected in the differences of biologist anatomy both of the creature. This teory have got a lot of criticism, especially by Karl Max because misunderstanding concept said that differences role is identically to oppression and discrimination. Whereas, Al Qur'an when differentiating these tasks isn’t purposed to do that such a thing, and even after the fact practiced by it terms, the oppression and discrimination that being feared was never exist. Information below can explain the problem.
"Qowwam" according to Imam Qurtubi means to do something and take responsibility for it by the way to investigate and keep it with sincerity. Then the responsibility of men to women in these limits. That is, with caring, educating and maintaining her inside the home and forbade her to go out (without any purpose).
            J.C. Mosse had stated that the pattern of gender relations which is describe in the Al Qur'an, where man handled the responsibility of family, have resemble across to the northern hemisphere, including Europe and America. Moreover, according to the concept of family in Greek and Roman tradition, the leader of family are held by men.
            The comparison of two statement above are shown that both of woman and men have the same roles wich is significant. Men as father, leads his family with all of his patient, and conferences. He guard, trained, and maintained his family while woman as mother that bossy character has her tasks to managed her family, give education and taking care her children and her husband too.
            I think that is reasonable for us to be more respected to our parents, doesn’t matter who deserve more or who better to be a leader. We owe our lives because they have given all we needed. In the universal context, man and women also have the same position if they’re lead each other. Women usually has a bossy character because she wanted more attention and man given all of women’s wanted based of good yield character to get love and peace. 

Rabu, 12 Maret 2014

How To Develop Self Confidence

When we increase to grow up we should facing the reality of life. Then the reality demmand us to figure every situation as an adult attitude. In addition we should have strong confident to face the reality that sometimes feels so hard. Therefore we should made the way to build a strong character and confidence.
Steps to develop self confidence :
ü  First                 : Start to move on from every  problems you have
Remember that no one is perfect. And nobody hasn't A Problem. Even the most confident people have insecurities. At some point in any of our lives, we may feel we lack something. That is reality. Learn that life is full of bumps down the road. And that often these insecure feelings come and go, depending on where we are, who we are with, the mood we're in, how we are feeling. In other words, they are not constant.
ü  Second           : Set A Goal
At this stage, you need to start managing your mind. Learn to pick up and defeat the negative self-talk which can destroy your confidence. This is where you start, ever so slowly, moving towards your goal. Set a goal you know you can achieve, and then achieve it. You’ll feel good about that. Now set another small goal and achieve that. The more you achieve small goals, the better you’ll be at it, and the better you’ll feel. Soon you’ll be setting bigger (but still achievable) goals and achieving those too. By doing the right things, and starting with small, easy wins, you’ll put yourself on the path to success – and start building the self-confidence that comes with this.
ü  Third               : Think Positive
What is a simple way to stay consistent with thinking something positively? As mentioned above: to remember the most important reasons why you are doing it. Speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others. By doing so, you reinforce those ideas in your mind and encourage your growth in a positive direction.
ü  Next                 : Groom Your Self, Dress Nicely, And Smile to Yourself
Studies surrounding what's called the "facial feedback theory" suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. Now, dressing nicely means something different for everyone … it doesn’t necessarily mean wearing a $500 outfit, but could mean casual clothes that are nice looking and presentable.And then look at the mirror and smile. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run. Along the same lines of smiling to make yourself feel happy, acting confident might actually make you believe it. Pretend you're a completely confident version of you, go through the motions and see how you feel. Not a bad investment of your time and energy.
ü  Finally,  You Should always do that ways when you getting less or even no confidence. Confidence comes from believing, way of thinking that is strong, positive, and do not be affraid to try harder.

That's the way to Develop self confidence. Hope that can be usefull :) 

How to Write a Paragraph

Paragraph writing remains one of the most important parts of writing. The paragraph serves as a container for each of the ideas of an essay or other piece of writing. Paragraphs are versatile and can take many forms that strengthen your writing, provide variety for readers, and help readers to organize the ideas you present.

Paragraph Length in a Piece of Writing

While it is true that a paragraph may be of any length, it is most common for an essay paragraph to be at least 3-5 sentences long and to be no longer than half a typed, double-spaced page. Journalism paragraphs (newspapers and magazines) tend to be 1-3 sentences long. Some paragraphs in books, especially technical treatises, might go on for several printed pages.
No matter what length an individual paragraph, most good writing varies paragraph length within any one piece of writing. If there are a few short paragraphs, then a longer one usually comes along. If there are one or two long paragraphs, usually a short paragraph or two will intervene to give the reader a short break in concentration.

Use Paragraphs to Break Up Ideas

A paragraph is the container for only one idea. Often, a longer paragraph can - and should - be divided into smaller units. Usually a large, complex idea is made up of smaller ideas and can be explained in more paragraphs with those smaller ideas. The point, though, is to have one coherent paragraph - all of the ideas in each sentence of the paragraph must relate to a single main point. That point is most often made in a topic sentence.

Topic Sentences in Paragraphs

A topic sentence gives the main idea of a paragraph. It usually occurs as the first or last sentence of the paragraph. Some paragraphs will not have a topic sentence, if the main point is obvious. Others might place the topic sentence slightly differently. Occasionally, as in this paragraph, the topic sentence might begin the paragraph but be restated in a different way at the end. That is to say, most writers put the topic sentence of a paragraph at the beginning or the end or both.

Grammar in Paragraphs

Every sentence in a paragraph must be grammatically correct, in so much as that grammar aids in understanding the ideas that the writer would like to convey. The topic sentence, in particular, must be very well written and very clear to readers. Of course, WhiteSmoke's grammar checker can be employed here to pick up any errors. The WhiteSmoke free online grammar checker could even be used if you just need to check your writing very occasionally.

Types of Paragraphs

Most writing has an introductory paragraph or an introduction of a few paragraphs, and a conclusion of a few paragraphs or concluding paragraph. The introduction and conclusion are, of course, supported by body paragraphs. The typical body paragraph develops, supports, or elaborates a given topic sentence. Most paragraph structures longer than 1-2 sentences have common elements

Minggu, 25 November 2012

A Words

Orang yang membencimu adalah orang yang paling jujur menemukan dan mengatakan kekuranganmu.

Walau pun tidak mudah, berterima-kasihlah kepadanya.

Dia membantumu mengenali kualitas apa saja yang harus kau perbaiki.

Terimalah kritiknya sebagai nasihat, dan perbaikilah dirimu agar dia bisa mengalihkan perhatiannya kepada kekuranganmu yang lain.

Sesungguhnya para pembenci adalah fans yang sedang
salah sikap.

Mario Teguh – Loving you all as always

Mereka Bicara

Setiap harinya ada cerita
setiap harinya ada derita dan ceria
orang2 hilir..bergilir angkat bicara
tp nurani tak bnyak berkomentar
ada yg tdk peduli dgn kata
ada yg abai mendengar suara
apakah tuli??
memilih siapa yg berbicara
apakah ada yg berbeda??
                                                               >>Desindy

Malam

Mulai kelam
belum buntu malam
kami masih berjaga
--Thermopylae?-
- jagal tidak dikenal ? -
tapi nanti
sebelum siang membentang
kami sudah tenggelam hilang


                                                                                                                                      Ch_anwar

Senin, 09 April 2012

Miss You

my love can't comeback to his place
it hurts since i can’t forget that
looks like here is not the place where you’re supposed to be
you don’t have to hold back for me
it all will end someday too anyway
my love just can’t seem to reach you
just as much as the amount of tears that flowed, it’s still far away to go
i have to forget you, i miss you so much
even if you never know how much it hurts, i will forget
i’m a fool, you know me
my heart’s been ripped apart, but i can only smile
i’ll still be waiting for you till forever
as i will keep hiding my tears
would you come back to me?
tears keep rolling down like crazy
i think i can’t do it
i can’t forget you
even if i just feel like dying
i can’t let go of your love
i’m alive this way
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~˘ ) 

 


Jumat, 09 Desember 2011

Reposting From Kembang Anggrek's Notes

Hidup manusia itu seperti sebuah buku. Front cover adalah tanggal lahir. Back cover adalah tanggal pulang.

Kehidupan itu ibarat sebuah buku…!
sampul depan buku adalah awal mula kehidupan …
sampul belakang buku adalah akhir penutup kehidupan..
... tiap lembar buku adalah tiap-tiap detik kehidupan yang dilalui…
tiap lembar buku adalah tiap-tiap menit kehidupan yang dilalui…
tiap lembar buku adalah tiap-tiap jam kehidupan yang dilalui…
tiap lembar buku adalah tiap-tiap hari kehidupan yang dilalui…

Seburuk apapun halaman buku…
sekotor apapun coretan kehidupan halaman buku…
selalu tersedia halaman selanjutnya yang putih bersih dan polos…
halaman baru yang tiada cacat
untuk diisi dengan coretan kehidupan…
hingga tiba pada lembar akhir buku…
dan buku pun ditutup…..

begitu pula kehidupan…
seburuk apapun hari yang telah dilalui…
Allah selalu menyediakan hari yang baru untuk dilalui…
Allah selalu memberi kesempatan yang baru…
untuk memperbaiki kesalahan di hari sebelumnya..
untuk melanjutkan alur cerita kehidupan yang sudah ditetapkan-Nya..
untuk kehidupan seluruh hamba-Nya..
hingga tiba pada akhir kehidupan…
memenuhi panggilan-Nya…

Kamis, 08 Desember 2011

Terjemahan Lagu "Waiting Outside The Lines" By Greyson Chance

Kau tidak akan pernah menikmati hidupmu,
hidup di dalam kotak
kau begitu takut mengambil resiko,
bagaimana kau akan mencapai puncak?

Aturan dan peraturan,
memaksamu untuk bermain aman
menyingkirkan semua keraguan tersebut,
sudah waktunya bagimu untuk merebut hari

Daripada hanya duduk di sekitar
dan melihat ke bawah pada esok hari
kau harus membiarkan kakimu dari tanah,
sekarang waktunya

Aku menunggu, menunggu, menunggu,
Aku menunggu, menunggu di luar garis
Menunggu di luar garis
Menunggu di luar garis

Cobalah untuk tidak ada penyesalan
bahkan jika itu hanya malam ini
bagaimana kau akan berjalan di depan
jika kau terus hidup dalam kebutaan

Terjebak di posisi yang sama,
kau pantas menerima lebih jauh
ada seluruh dunia di sekitar kita,
hanya menunggu untuk dijelajahi

daripada hanya duduk di sekitar
dan melihat ke bawah pada esok hari
 kau harus membiarkan kakimu dari tanah,
sekarang waktunya, hanya membiarkannya pergi

Tak ingin memaksamu untuk tersenyum
Aku di sini untuk membantumu melihat pelangi
Karena aku tahu, apa yg ada dlm dirimu di luar sana

Aku menunggu, menunggu, menunggu,
Aku menunggu, menunggu di luar garis
Menunggu di luar garis
Menunggu di luar garis

Aku mencoba untuk bersabar 
langkah pertama adalah yang paling sulit
aku tahu kau bisa membuatnya,
maju dan ambillah

Aku Menunggu, menunggu, hanya menunggu aku menunggu
Aku menunggu, menunggu, menunggu
Aku menunggu, menunggu di luar garis
Menunggu di luar garis
Menunggu di luar garis

Kau tidak akan pernah menikmati hidupmu
Hidup di dalam kotak
Kau begitu takut mengambil risiko,
Bagaimana kau akan mencapai puncak?

Selasa, 06 Desember 2011

At Six On December

Make a wish (˛)

God...
I din't building upon to much on this day,,
I don't waiting for a falling star and then i asked a hope...
I also didn't folding a thousand geese to fulfill my expectation


God...
I only asked you one hope...
I hope my lifes goes well
for everything i do,,to become something great later
No matter what happens


God...
I'm awaiting for a warm hug of love for someone
I'm longing for just one in my life to become something beautiful


God...
I kept walking on the ground
although sometimes i fall ,  
i also sometimes have to run out of breath to chasing my shadow 
God...I never stoped my step


During the air still You gave to my breath
God...
I will keep trying, and please..give me the goodness whic is equitable with my seriousness

 Desindy
(˘з˘)




Senin, 05 Desember 2011

Menjadi pribadi yang tersenyum dari pandangan hidupnya

Hidup??
Sebagian orang memberatkan hidupnya dengan keluh kesah,,ada yg menatap tajam di jalan hidup yg sedang ia tempuh, seperti berlari dari terjangan tsunami
sebagian lagi meringankan langkahnya dengan selalu tersenyum di sepanjang jalan hidupnya walau dengan apa pun yg terjadi, bagaikan hidup tanpa masalah
faktanya...pribadi semua manusia berbeda
dan perbedaan itulah yg mewarnai kehidupan di dunia ini
lalu...ingin menjadi pribadi seperti apakah kita??
pribadi yg memberatkan hidup itu sendiri,,atau yg meringankannya...(???)
ngutip dari kata2 seorang bijak Mario Teguh dlm judul talk shownya "Why So Serious"
dari judul itu menyindir org2 yg bersikap terlalu serius dlm menghadapi kehidupan
kenapa harus begitu?? sepertinya dunia ini begitu tidak menyenangkan untuk sekedar tertawa
ahh...gamau deh jd yg kaya gitu   (̴͡ ̴̯͡)
ada lg org yg tak pernah serius dalam hidupnya,, bahkan ia selalu menganggap enteng semua hal 
hemh... gabisa di ikutin jg yg ini deh  (˛⌣')
jadii... tips untuk menghadapi hidup ini dari pak Mario adalah "Life is Having Fun Seriously"

     Dlm hidup ini kita bisa tertawa, bisa marah, menangis, kesal, tersenyum, bahagia
itu semua adalah emosi jiwa yg terjadi dengan sangat alami,,kalau selama kita hidup tak pernah mengeluarkan emosi alias datar2 aja...wah wah gak nikmatin hidup bgt kayanya ya (́_̀̀)  
tapiiiii....ada kalanya emosi-emosi itu mampu di redam seminim mungkin agar tak terjadi overdoing dlm mengekspresikan emosi itu.

      Ngomongin soal emosi...banyak org yg gak bisa ngontrol emosinya, sehingga menimbulkan ledakan yg tak karuan. Kelihatannya hidup ini begitu tak tenang..ckck

     Setiap hal dlm hidup ini terkadang memang terjadi secara tidak layak, tetapi...apa pun masalahnya dlm menjalani hidup, hendaknya kita tak membiarkan senyuman dari diri kita itu menghilang tanpa jejak.
Karna senyuman adalah ujung dari kedamaian.

     Menjadi Pribadi yang tersenyum dari pandangan hidup...adalah sebuah cara meringankan segala beban dan penat yg terasa pekat dlm langkah menuju petualangan hidup ini.

So... Keep Smile :)